Forgive Yourself Forgive your Offender Forgive the Offense
Welcome to my blog – I call Forgiveness Friday’s
Each week I will endeavor to share with you the power of finding forgiveness and returning to love!
This week we will talk about the stages of forgiveness and how important it is to start with YOU!
A Course in Miracles teaches that there two emotions Love & Fear. It states, that “nothing real can be threatened nothing unreal exist, herein lies the peace of GOD.”
The Course also teaches that “only love is real.” That means that anything other than love (GOD) is an illusion. The opposite of Love is Fear and fear is your moving away from GOD as love is your returning to GOD.
When you feel love you are in the pure essence of GOD…Not necessarily physical love put the purity of love.
Physical loves causes a duality in life because you so often place conditions on the external feeling that awards the senses and not the soul. You love your mate, your children, your family, your friends, yet when they hurt you are disappoint you, you withhold that love from them, and replace it with anger or disappointment.
Simply put, when you hold someone hostage by your love you are holding them in the space by your fear.
The reason I wrote Forgiveness for the Stubborn and Hardheaded, is because we resist the desire to return to love. We are afraid that surrendering to GOD’S love shows weakness rather that our ability to embrace the Love that GOD created us to have.
True love, casts out all darkness and as Jesus said in Matthew 5:44 Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.
The question becomes how do you forgive and return to love?
Finding forgiveness can be an arduous task to say the least, however once mastered, it becomes as easy as day and night.
First recognize that Forgiveness is never about the person who has hurt, harmed or even endangered you! It is about your ability to release the grip the fear and anguish has on you.
There are three components in not only finding forgiveness but understanding its importance.
They are Forgiving Yourself, Forgiving The Offender, and Forgiving the Offense.
You ask yourself, how can I do this when they did this to me? You say, I can’t forgive this person because to forgive them, means I accept what they have done to me. This is not true, forgiveness is about releasing yourself from what happened and disempowering the offender. Disempowering the offender does not excuse the offense by any means, it simply returns the power back to you. How you allow the fear to control your life is always up to you!
Why did this happen to me? How could they do this to me? I didn’t deserve to have this happen. These are the statements the ego injects into your consciousness to give engulf you with “its” power which is the power of fear.
When you are upset the Course asks “who have you not forgiven?” You are never totally upset about the offense, you are upset for many other reasons…You are angry because you let this happen to you again. Or you are upset because someone betrayed you and because of this betrayal you are angry with that person but most of all you are angry with yourself.
Forgiving yourself begins with asking yourself this question, what am I really angry about? When you can truly answer this question, you will discover that you are really angry with you.